Why?

I dun understand why... why must couples have cold wars, silence treatment, harsh words, arguments, etc??

Its a very mind and emotional torturing when things like that happen...

Why must such things happen over small issues that are not important in the first place?

Why can't I take an overnight cool-down period to forget the unhappiness inside me, before we kiss and patch up again?

I dun mean to be unhappy as and when I like. I can't control the emotions inside me right! I can't pretend that I m ok, when I know I am not, and I m sure you know I am not.

I m unhappy becuz I dun understand why our previous conversations in our memory got swopped. Its so unbelievable when you insisted on your words that you said the things that you din (at least in my memory). I know sometime my memory fails me, but there are certain times, I can remember things clearly. That's when I am perplexed. Cuz I just can't convince myself that I was wrong and you were right. When I feel unjustified, I can't swallow it like that. Why can't I be unhappy becuz I feel unjustified? Since I can't get over my feelings with a snap of finger, why can't I take the quiet way out to distract my feelings by watching tv la, do watever things such that I will forget the incident? Why must you harp that I am controlling your emotions?

We are both different individuals, and have different emotions, and have different way of handling emotions. I do not mean to control your emotions, but since we are a couple living together, we will tend to influence each others' feelings cuz we care about each other and are always together. Why can't we learn to observe, learn to adapt and learn to cope with each other's different way of emotions handling? You also have your time that you want to stay away from me, and cool down. If I am not being too unreasonable at the point of time, I will. Cuz' I know and respect that is your way of handling emotions. Over time, even I myself learn this method from you cuz I think its useful.

Most importantly, we must think in such a way that watever unhappy things should be over after the cooling period, and make things good again. Why must we carry over the unhappy things and make it a bigger event than it should have been?

Can we just not continue to be like this? I've waited for your return and hope we have a good and happy couple time together, and not such kind of unhappy time...